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Anyway, let’s talk business now. 😛
I was asked to write a post on this topic by a regular reader of my blog. And I am so grateful to him because this question is not just a normal question-it’s “THE QUESTION”. A question we all have asked ourselves, our elders-advisors, looked up on google or in some inspiring self-help book.
We all are different and unique in our own way. But there is one similarity in all of us- We all have faced challenges/problems/setbacks in the past or are struggling with some right now. Sometimes, struggles/problems are not visible-Inner struggles.You may not know what struggle someone around you is going through.
So be careful, when you are about to judge them-for the way they are.
I have a question to ask. Have you ever wondered what makes life so interesting? If you would ask me, I’ll say-it’s Uncertainty in our life. I mean we homo sapiens have a tendency or habit of planning things ahead of time and trying our best to control situations and sometimes people –for our benefit. But when life throws you a curveball and all your planning and expectations go up in the air-then you realize how stupid you have been all this time. Wasted so much of time-thinking of this and that(future events) without realizing you were only setting yourself up for disappointments and a cycle of Regrets for wasting that “time”-when you could have enjoyed your life but you chose to do “future planning”.
You blame yourself, your luck and fate(if you believe in it) and mostly people around you. You get all irritated and frustrated. By the end of the day, you are emotionally drained, physically exhausted and mentally stressed. And you blame again and sleep off! New day, old Shit. And then begins this never-ending Cycle.
It was some months ago when I realized one of the biggest mistakes we all do is- To blame others-person or things. I mean okay. I get it. Someone has wronged you in the past, hurt you, did something really bad and stuff. But do you realize one thing?
Every time you blame a person/thing/luck/fate/destiny- You give away the power to change your present circumstances and life.
STOP THE BLAME GAME!!
Time for some harsh truth?!
No one can assure you that you life will be all easy and smooth. And it will never be. Setbacks, problems, crisis will come-sooner or later.
The thing to remember is YOU HAVE TO BOUNCE BACK EVERY SINGLE TIME!
It doesn’t matter how old are you or Where are you in life?! You have to take Responsibility of your Life. NO ONE will do a single favor for you unless that person is THE GODFATHER! 😛
It’s your responsibility to take charge of your life, your present circumstances, your happiness. By blaming someone else-you might get a temporary relief with a evil smile on your face but are you really looking for a temporary solution here? When you know life is not a rehearsal, it’s a movie with No cuts, No retakes. One shot and the moment is gone.
The only reason you get sad/depressed/annoyed/irritated/discouraged/broken when you face an adversity is because you give away the power to change your situation by getting involved in the blame game.
Life without adversity is like A rainbow without Rain or A Morning without night!
Nice lines na?! 😛
I know! Thanks! 😀
So now after seeing some reasons behind you staying stuck in a bad situation or problem, what to do now?!
Firstly, stop planning things way too ahead of time. Obviously, set goals and pursue them but don’t get discouraged or sad when you fail to achieve them.
Getting my point?!
Don’t waste your present moment in dwelling on past or worrying about future. Whatever you do in this very moment, just give your best so that when you go to bed at night, you don’t carry a bag of regrets!
I am not saying Planning is a waste of time and you shouldn’t have plans for your future-when life is full of uncertainties. If that’s the message you have received then I am guilty of Faulty communication and you of Selective listening! 😛
All I am saying is- Live in the present and be flexible. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Plans fail, things do fall apart but you always have a choice. You can choose the way you want to respond.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
— Charles R. Swindoll
Now these are some small steps I usually follow to stay motivated when I am stuck or life gets way too uncertain-
- Drink water and sit on a chair with your legs stretched- CHILL basically! 😛
- Think of your situation as a temporary one because it is. No situation can define your life unless you allow it to do so.
- Think of this as a challenge and find solutions and implement them straight away.
- Even when someone has caused you some trouble- Take responsibility and do your best to come out of that situation. Mostly, what others do and how they treat you-has got little to do with you but more of their inner reflection. And of course there are some people who need to learn some lessons in life. They will. Someday!
- Read good inspirational books/quotes- You can even write them and paste them on the wall of your room-so you don’t get distracted and get off the track.
ABSORB THIS- You are responsible for how you feel, act and your life. No one else.
Pro tip: Whenever you are analyzing something-your life, situation anything-try writing it down on a paper or in text document. It helps a lot and is much better than just sitting and thinking.
I hope you have gotten a fair idea of how to stay motivated and bounce back every time life knocks you down. Even though everyone has their way of dealing with things- I JUST SHARED MINE. Hope it helps. If you have anything to share, want to suggest some solutions- feel free to comment below.
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