So, this is the last day of the year 2016. What’s going on in your mind? How are you feeling right now? Are you sad? Are you happy or just..
Comfortably numb?! 😛
I believe we can change our lives at any point of time, just need to make few tough decisions and there you go boy! Beginning of a new life. Notable changes will be observed. It’s just a matter of how many of us are brave enough to let go of things, some people, some habits and determined enough to put in some efforts to start creating the life we always wanted to live!
However, this time is the most suitable for making changes. Why? Well, we all have this image in our mind “New year, clean slate, erasing all the bad memories, learning from mistakes and a New beginning”. It doesn’t matter whether you take this seriously or just laugh about it. It’s the fact that many of us take this as a golden opportunity to start afresh which isn’t bad at all.
So how was your 2016? Did anything go wrong? Any good memories? Something you would want to take away with you, or something to leave behind?
If you ask me this question, I would say 2016 was kind of a mixed one. Full of ups and downs, maybe that’s how our lives are supposed to be. Still, there are things I am going to work on, in order to become a much better version of myself, in order to make 2017 a great year. And I guess there are some very common areas and you might want to work on them as well!
This is something which sticks to the ones like a shadow. The ones who belong to the “Overthinking” community(including me). If you have a habit of overthinking, there are very high chances you too fall in the trap of negativity. Why? All we do in overthinking is think of all the possible worst case scenarios that could happen and then find solutions to prevent them from happening. Finding answers to questions starting with “What if?” and stuff. So, I am going to work on this and I want you to work on this as well. Stay in the present and let go of the need to control the end result/outcome of every situation. Give your best, that’s it. Also, start finding the silver lining in every situation you come across. There is always something to be grateful for. It’s going to be tough but in the end, it’ll be worth it. Try doing this for 21 days and you might end up developing a good habit. The way you look at things matter a lot.
2- Lazing around
There were times when I did not feel like getting up from the bed, didn’t feel like doing anything. I don’t know why. Was I sad? Was I hurt? Was I worried? I just don’t know. On basis of that, I figured out what if this is some kind of attachment to my comfort zone?! Those days when you don’t feel like doing anything but just stay in bed all day?! The only solution to all this is, get up and do some work. Physical work. No matter how bad and low you are feeling, the only way to become happy again is to get up and do some physical work. Workout, maybe. The more you will stay there, the worse you will feel about everything. Plug in your earphones and get moving.
3- Anger Management
Something I shouldn’t be talking about. 😛 People who know me well must be laughing right now. 😛 But anyway, the truth is anger doesn’t really help. Unless you intentionally want to increase your body temperature, want to turn evil red, then no one is stopping you. Just in case, you too want to work with me on this issue, follow this. Divert your mind. How hard and weird it may sound, you need to do that. Music is the best therapy and so is laughter. Watch/listen/read something which distracts you from the current situation so that you don’t react straightaway in the heat of the moment and then regret later. In case you want to use that anger, transform all that anger and negative emotion into something productive. Say you have been avoiding some dull work or assignment or anything for a long time, sit on your study/work table, plug in your earphones and finish the job! As you already know, workout is also a good way to handle anger.
Note: When you can’t get rid of something permanently, better learn different ways of handling it. 😉 Respond but do not React!
4- Me time
This is something I learned in 2016. You don’t always need someone to enjoy life. In fact, the day you will learn how to enjoy being alone is the day you will know that Happiness always starts with you. For e.g, when I am alone or I don’t feel like going out of my room, all I do is get my food stuff, sit in front of my laptop and watch Supernatural 😛 And I enjoy doing that unless I have got loads of work, then I am unable to watch it with 100% concentration 😛 Hence, learn to be happy alone!
We all want to be successful, become rich, buy our favorite cars and the list goes on. But how many of us are actually willing to take required efforts? Not many, I guess. We all want to reach that destination but we just don’t want to follow that road full of obstacles, difficulties and blocks. Let this sink in. You need to work hard, you need to stay late, you need to burn the midnight oil if you really want to achieve your goals. Without hard work, efforts everything is meaningless. And if you really want to prove yourself, prove someone wrong, then nothing is better than achieving success in your life. Prove that person wrong who walked all over you. Stop wishing. Start doing. No one will do anything for you. Your life, you only have to do everything. Hustle hard.
Make yourself your top priority. Your happiness, your well being. Nothing else. I hate to say this but people will do whatever they feel like doing, for their reasons, for their happiness even if it means leaving you behind. Absorb this. Accept this. Stop being a doormat, an emotional punch bag. If you think you are neglecting your feelings just for another person’s sake, stop doing that right now. It happens just to save a particular relation/friendship we stay quiet or ignore those times when the other person simply neglected us or made us feel neglected. Enough of this. Make yourself your top priority. No one is worth it. Not at this time when you should be busy creating your life, your future. Or remember this rule- Never make someone your top priority unless you are on top of their priority list. No one is more important than your sleep. 😛
7- Self Improvement
My favorite. The more you work on yourself, the deeper you will get to know yourself and the better your relations will be. From physical fitness to your general knowledge, work on everything on daily basis. Learn new ways to improve yourself. Choose a suitable 21 days challenge and complete it. Remember this, the less dependent you are on others, the happier your life will be! There is so much to learn, so much to read, so much to absorb, to express. Focus on improving yourself and not on criticizing others. Just work on yourself!
8- Rest but do not Quit
It happens so many times when I wake up and I feel so discouraged and disheartened. Like I just don’t want to do anything, just finish or say terminate all the ongoing processes. And then when I am done with this mood swing, I am sitting idle with a bunch of regrets. Solution? Never ever take permanent decisions on temporary emotions. If you feel exhausted, then take a break. Rest. Take a power nap. But do not quit. Never ever.
There are some major 8 things I am going to work on. And I really want you to work as well. I know there are so many things to work on. We will. Slowly. But for now, all I can say is. Enjoy this journey. This very new beginning. Give your best. You don’t need to worry about the end results. Just be happy at each and every step and rest everything will fall into place. This is your life. No one is responsible for it except you. Stay strong. Get up. Work hard. Party hard. Whatever you do, give your best.
The only way to stay motivated in this tough life is to keep motivating others. The more you will help each other, encourage each other, the more motivated you will be at the end of the day!
Do I really need to say this? Sharing is caring folks, you know what I mean! 😉
Happy New Year!
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