Daily Prompt: Carry

via Daily Prompt: Carry

Carry- a word which means to support or bear the weight of something while moving.

We all carry something or the other. I am not talking about the visible things like Files, Bags or laptops or mobile phones-Not the ones which we can take off anytime.

I am talking about the guilt, regret, resentment, anger, bitterness that we carry in day- to-day life towards someone.

Call them feelings or “invisible” stuff- Stuff which is not be visible in this physical world but has the maximum weight than any of the “visible” things.

That weight or say heaviness you feel inside-stuffed inside your chest. You see, everyone has a story to tell. Some people can’t forgive and there are some who don’t want to forgive someone for hurting them in the past.

Maybe I fall in the latter one!

What about you?

These people choose to live life by carrying all the weight of these negative and powerful feelings. They do their daily life work just like a normal person does-with or without a smile on their face or spark in their eyes, even when they are burdened with the weight of “Negative emotions-feelings”.

It’s not easy to forgive and forget someone who has hurt you in the past. But you can try and so can I.

It’s a great feeling when you finally let go of this burden that you have been carrying for so many weeks, months or even years! That’s the day you will actually experience the freedom!

Maybe it’s worth a try.

To live a life we once imagined- Free from everything!

Thank you!

 

 

 

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Unpredictable

Unpredictable

­Unpredictable is one of the very few words in English dictionary which actually makes me nervous, more than the word “Nervous” itself.

And you have every right to ask me “WHY?”!

Well, because I don’t know what’s going to happen next and being a human, I love to see the future, plan it according to myself, control the situations and sometimes people too-so that every thing goes according to the plan-My plan.

Sounds familiar, right?

That’s just you talking.

Anyway, I gave you my definition of the word Unpredictable. Want some examples?

Sure- here they are.

1- We

2- Our life

Trust me when I say this. One of the “Not-so-cool” qualities of humans is- They are UNPREDICTABLE. And that includes me as well.

And certainly is your life. You do have future plans or plans for tomorrow but you don’t even know what’s going to happen in the next moment? Do you?

However, I will only talk about “US”, in this article.

You see-One of the greatest qualities we all have is- the ability to think and decide for ourselves which further gives us one of the worst qualities- Unpredictability.

I can’t predict you. You can’t predict me.

And maybe this is the reason- People fight with each other, relations die, friendships end.

I am not being negative, realistic maybe.

It doesn’t matter how much time you have invested with a particular person, memories you have made or fun you have had together- Anyone can leave you anytime. All those promises, commitments will mean nothing that day.

It was going well and then you don’t know what happened and it was over. A good way to describe unpredictability of humans.

As far as I know- Unpredictability is something which makes you mysterious but at the same time, makes you way too dangerous.

Unpredictable, scary as shit.

This is not a “How to overcome” post so apologies if you were expecting it to be.

Still, few guidelines- though how negative it may sound-

  • Invest your time wisely with anyone
  • Choose your friends with utmost precautions

Because you never know how ugly unpredictability can get. 

Thank you!

 

Confused

Confused

The inability to take a decision or in simple terms, the inability to choose between given options is- Confusion.

Sometimes, it also means unsurety about life or the events happening around us.

Most of us, live our lives in confusion. It’s very rare when you are crystal clear about your dreams, your goals, your values, your life principles and your direction in life.

We often hear statements like this- “He is such a confused guy” or “She looks confused”. It’s very easy to say stuff like that for somebody else. But what about you? Are your goals clear? What about your career plans? What about your values?

Confused?!

Anyway, confusion is not a very good trait as well all know. Mainly, because a confused person will always say NO to an offer, an opportunity-a chance to grow just because he is not sure(confused) and so he chooses to remain in his shell-the familiar comfort area-or call it “Playing it safe”.

So, what really causes confusion is in the first place?

There are many reasons like-

1- Lack of Self Confidence– A person who has low or zero confidence in himself will never ever be able to take his own decisions. Hence when confronted with a choice-he will always ask for help.

2- Lack of Awareness– A person who is not fully aware of his surroundings/environment/trends/general stuff will get confused when something related to this will come up. Reason being he has no knowledge of what’s good for him and what’s not-He too will ask for help from others’.

3- Bad Past Experience– Suppose a person took a wrong decision in the past related to xyz thing, now the next time when he will face any query related to that “xyz”, he will get scared and naturally, seek help from others’.

4- Doesn’t really know himself– This is crucial from overall growth point of view. Since a person who is not aware of his strength, weakness, his needs will never ever be able to take his own decisions.

These are some 4 reasons which lead to Confusion in day-to-day life.

Now how to find solution?

The first and foremost step towards facing confusion and gaining clarity is-TO SIT calmly in a peaceful environment. This is the most crucial step because unless your inner self is calm, you cannot look inside for solutions to your problems!

Once you are at peace with yourself, think about the situation and then think of the solutions.

Or if you know someone who gets confused at every point of time or is unable to take his own decisions, help him in removing all sorts of confusion from his life.

Thank you!

 

Stubborn

Stubborn
This word defines me so well.

Sometimes, I think most of my life problems are because of this only. My stubbornness.

Even you are stubborn. And I will prove it to you.

There are so many difficult things in this “complicated” life. So many dilemmas. But one of the most toughest decision you will ever make is- To decide whether to let go or hold onto someone.

Think about it. What I just wrote does not only apply to relations-friendships but to other spheres of life as well but here I will only discuss about the relations-friendship part.

Suppose there is a friend of yours who is not treating you properly, paying you attention and all that stuff which makes you feel unimportant. However, you still talk to that friend-because your friendship with that person-is true and real. You can’t or say don’t want to remove that friend from your life-Irrespective of how badly you get treated!

You have tried everything to change the way things are getting now but still nothing helps. You have had those way long conversations or say peace talks but nothing really helps! You get irritated or annoyed or say hurt and you block that friend from everywhere for a “temporary period”- Because you believe you can’t live without that friend.

When you get back to normal, all the heat and hurt gone, you start again. Thinking of the different ways to set everything right. But you fail-again and again.

Now the reason you fail again and again is not because you are not genuinely trying or giving 100%. It’s because you only have control over yourself-Not over situations or people.

Absorb this. It will take time but it’s worth it.

Now you see-You are stubborn too.

Stubborn because you are holding onto someone who doesn’t want to change or wants you to be a part of their life. For your betterment only, it would be best to let that “not-so-friendly” friend go but your stubbornness level is too high!

Remember: Friendships/Relations only work when there is equal contribution from both the sides. Because they are not “One-Person” thing.

I am not saying this is all so easy. All I am saying is, it’s one of the toughest things you will ever have to do but in the long run- It’s the right thing. Though the situation may vary from person to person but deep inside we all know- what’s right and what’s not!

So, the next time you tell someone “I am not stubborn”. Think before you speak because you might have faced situation like that at some point of time.

Thank you!

 

 

Daily Prompt: Complicated

Complicated

Whenever I hear this word “Complicated”-the first thing that comes to my mind is a picture of a messy Web of negative and positive thoughts-with my inner peace stuck at center of the web.

And I am pretty sure-I am not the only one. There are thousands of people like me out there-stuck in almost same situation.

One of the most complicated thing you will ever hear about is-LIFE. Our Lives. And this is something we all tell each other. But the thing is if anyone is to blame for all the so called complications-it’s US.

As I said in my last post, we all are responsible for our life. So, whatever the choices you have made so far, decisions you have taken till now-right or wrong-if anyone is responsible then it’s You! 

And it really doesn’t matter how much you think about it or overthink about it or feel bad about all these complicated stuff-You stay stuck in this complicated life-unless of course you get up and decide to take charge of your life.

Accept the fact-Life is complicated or you have made it complicated. Now sit alone, take a piece of paper and think of all the areas where you think- “It’s complicated”.

Now if you can change the situation- change it. Take appropriate steps. Do not Rush. Have patience. Everything will fall into place-just do your best.

But, if the situation is beyond your control- then accept it. And get over it. It will surely take time. But life is too short to waste on complicated situations or on people.

Always try to simplify your life-no matter how old you are or where you are!

Hope it helps!

Thank you